That’s essentially what New York State Supreme Court Judge Donald Greenwood told a 30-year-old man this past week. According to CNN, “A 30-year-old man didn’t get the message that it was time to move out of his parents’ home, even after they left him five notices and an offer of cash to help find new digs. The New York family drama eventually rolled into the court system, where a judge on Tuesday ruled in the parents’ favor and ordered Michael Rotondo to leave after having a room for eight years.”
Apparently, Michael had moved back home and according to ABC NEWS, told the judge he “hasn’t made life difficult for his parents and that there was never any expectation on him to contribute to household expenses or do chores or maintain the home.”
The drama began early this year and on February 2 the parents left their first note telling Michael he had two weeks to move out. Their fifth and final notice was given on March 30 and included several options for him to get his broken down vehicle off their property. In each of the options, the parents offered even to help pay for the repairs.
In one of their earlier notices, the parents offered Michael $1,100 to help him get into a new place and they also shared this advice:
1. Organize the things you need for work and to manage an apartment.
2. Sell the other things you have that have any significant value, (e.g., stereos, some tools, etc.). This is especially true for any weapons you may have. You need the money and will have no place for the stuff.
3. There are jobs available even for those with a poor work history like you. Get one – you have to work!
4. If you want help finding a place your Mother has offered to help you.
I’ll save the discussion about when is the appropriate time for the boy to sit down and the man to stand up for a later date. My concern is that something similar might be taking place in evangelical churches all over the world, where millions of believers erroneously believe they are good just “being in the house.” In this case, God’s. And there’s no expectation they contribute to household expenses or do chores, etc. They believe they are entitled to all the benefits and blessings of being God’s children, but there’s no burden to bear or responsibility to share.
Don’t get me wrong, I love God’s house and love to be there. I absolutely echo the words of David when he said, “I was glad when they said to me, ‘Let us go to the house of the Lord’” (Psalm 122:1). There’s nothing like getting the whole family together in worship, praise, prayer, preaching, sharing, encouraging and ministering to one another. But we can’t just come and sit and soak it all in and stay in the house. The Christian life is so much more than a single service on a weekend.
Jesus told the Parable of the Great Banquet in Luke 14. The Master represents God. The Invitation is God’s incredible offer of salvation and here’s what He said, “The master said to the servant, ‘Go out to the highways and hedges and compel people to come in, that my house may be filled’” (Luke 14:23). We need to go out and find everyone we can and bring them to God.
The Christian life is so much more than a single service on a weekend.
Matthew 28:19-20 records the clear command of Christ, “Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”
Greg Laurie said, “Jesus did not say the whole world should go to church, but He did say, in effect, that the church should go to the whole world.”
In other words … Get out of the house!
© 2018. Barry L. Cameron
Sources: Jackson, Amanda. “A Judge Sides with Parents and Rules Their 30-Year-Old Son Must Move Out.” CNN, Cable News Network, 23 May 2018, https://www.cnn.com/2018/05/22/us/judge-rules-son-must-move-out-new-york-trnd/index.html; https://abcnews.go.com/US/judge-orders-30-year-man-vacate-parents-home/story?id=55351512; http://www.foxnews.com/us/2018/05/22/new-york-man-30-ordered-to-vacate-parents-home-after-refusing-to-leave-for-monthls.html
Barry Cameron is a devoted father and husband, bestselling author, dynamic communicator, and Senior Pastor of Crossroads Christian Church. Crossroads has a gorgeous, 150-acre campus in Grand Prairie, Texas. More than 8000 people call Crossroads their church home. Barry’s latest book, The Road to Financial Freedom, came out in the fall of 2020 and is available on Amazon. It’s another game changer for individuals and families who want to fix their finances once and for all.
Barry and his wife, Janis, have three children: Katie, Matt and Kelli. A daughter-in-law, Lindley and a son-in law, Johnny. They also have two grandsons, Will and Levi. Their family has been completely debt free since November 15, 2001.
Crossroads Christian Church has been debt free since November 9, 2008.